S1 Ep 13: Becoming Your Own Safe Space

Shelly opens the episode with an important reminder that self-love is foundational to becoming your own safe space. For her, it has been a journey of recognizing her own needs and committing to self-respect. Candice agrees, highlighting how self-love requires us to set boundaries and hold ourselves accountable to prioritize well-being over people-pleasing. This practice not only honors our own needs but also allows us to show up more fully in our relationships.

One of the most impactful aspects of creating a safe space within ourselves is reconnecting with our inner child. Candice and Shelly both share how engaging in inner child work has helped them release past wounds, reclaim personal power, and approach life with a greater sense of compassion. Candice describes her experience of visualizing her younger self, offering her love and support in the way she needed back then. This process allows us to heal the younger versions of ourselves that may still influence our current behaviors and emotional responses.

Candice and Shelly emphasize that boundaries are essential for self-protection, not self-isolation. By establishing clear boundaries, we communicate our values and honor our own needs, creating a safer inner environment. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean we’re rejecting others; rather, it’s about ensuring we are safe, balanced, and able to engage in healthy relationships. Shelly reflects on the challenges of setting boundaries, particularly for people-pleasers and empaths, but reinforces that this practice is key to building a secure and nurturing relationship with ourselves.

Our shadow, the parts of us we may suppress or avoid, holds valuable insights into our inner lives. Shelly discusses her journey with shadow work, where she had to confront traits she preferred to keep hidden—her need for perfection, her desire for control, and her inner critic. By acknowledging these shadows, Shelly began to accept these parts of herself as part of her whole being. Candice shares how understanding her ego’s role in self-protection has helped her make peace with her inner critic, allowing her to pursue new opportunities with confidence and self-acceptance.

In a powerful reflection on healing legacy, Candice introduces the concept of ancestral and generational healing. By becoming our own safe space, we’re not only healing ourselves but also impacting future generations. When we work through our traumas, establish boundaries, and embrace self-love, we set a foundation for those who come after us to experience a more positive, supportive environment. This work ripples through our family lines, extending the benefits of healing far beyond ourselves.

This episode of Healers With Humor is an invitation to examine what it takes to become a refuge for yourself. How can you cultivate self-love, set boundaries, and make peace with your inner world? Whether you’re just beginning this journey or are well along the path, creating your own safe space is one of the most empowering steps you can take toward healing.

Thank you for being part of the Healers With Humor community. Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together, we can navigate the highs and lows and celebrate the beauty of self-discovery and growth.